One of my really cool friends from North Carolina has been in town for over a week. In the time that she’s been here, I’ve had 3 days off from work, plus there’s been a weekend. Five days when we could have hung out, and she made it clear she would really like to. So we got together one day and had a pretty good time, and then I just never called her again. On any of the 4 days when we still could have hung out. Did I mention she lives in NC and I never get to see her and I really like her and miss her?

I know what the problem is. She told me something that bothered me, specifically something that she’s been doing in one of her relationships. It’s not anything crazy or evil or destructive, but I think it’s kind of unethical and disrespectful. It’s definitely something that other people might see differently; I see it as wrong, but I realize it’s not absolute. But anyway, it bothered me, and it made me feel a little uncomfortable with her. So what did I do? Get over it, because it’s none of my business and truly not that big a deal? Tell her my reaction, so we could talk it through and clear the air? Or keep it to myself and then stew and stew until I didn’t even want to talk to her any more?

Guess.

So, she’s leaving in a week, which means this weekend is the last time we can hang out. Feeling like a real schmuck, I left her a message, and hopefully she’ll still have time for me. And hopefully I’ll get a grip on myself and stop doing this . . . because I do it a lot. I lose friends, or I guess they lose me, because something they do or say bothers me and I don’t want to deal, so I just cut them off. It’s so stupid. Some social worker, huh?

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